“There is freedom waiting for you, on the breezes of the sky, and you ask “What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, what if you fly?” – Erin Hanson
Pilar Vergara-King
Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying)
Pronouns: She/her
Pilar is a Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) who supports Individuals and Couples. She strives to support clients in developing a stronger connection with themselves and others. In session, she focuses on establishing trust, identifying client’s strengths, and building the confidence to live authentically. As a queer therapist living with chronic illness, Pilar understands the integral role identity plays in life and approaches therapy from an intersectional, anti-oppressive perspective. She meets clients from all backgrounds with humility, curiosity, and respect for their unique lived experience. Pilar is sex and kink positive, affirming of 2SLGBTQIA+ identities, supportive of ethical non-monogamy and different relationship configurations.
What can I help you with?
I work with Adults & Couples/Relationships.
I’m the therapist for you if:
- You want to build confidence and feel empowered to live authentically.
- You would like to challenge social norms around sexuality, gender, and relationships, and the role they play in how you connect with yourself and others.
- You’re looking for a space to identify and explore patterns/cycles in romantic, platonic, and familial relationships.
- You’re looking for a therapist who will challenge you while remaining respectful and compassionate to where you are in your change journey.
Experience with:
- 2SLGBTQIA+
- Anxiety
- ADHD
- Attachment Wounds
- Body Positivity
- Chronic Illness/Disability
- Ethical Non-Monogamy & Polyamory
- Exploring Gender & Sexuality
- Interpersonal Relationships
- Infidelity
- Kink
- Self-Esteem and Confidence
- Sex and Intimacy
- Spirituality
My Approach
Therapy with me starts with establishing trust and safety. I offer an affirming space so you can explore your thoughts, feelings, and patterns freely and without judgement. I aim to support clients in discovering balance and tolerance for the uncertainties of life through emotional exploration and discovery. My style is warm and validating while also being direct in order to facilitate meaningful change. I take an integrative approach to therapy that is client-centered and grounded in Attachment Theory and Strengths-Based approaches.
Therapy Approaches: Attachment Theory, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioural Therapy (CBT), Feminist, Sex Therapy, Strengths-Based.
Working with me
Sessions with me are casual but intentional. Sessions can range from flexible and free-flowing or structured and solution-focused. Depending on client goals, we can focus on gathering important information about the issue at hand, processing and exploring thoughts and emotions, or developing practical skills to use outside the therapy room.
Casual and Warm
My aim is to create a space for clients to feel comfortable enough to be authentically themselves. I often incorporate humor and allow the client to set the mood and pace of sessions.
Pleasure Focused
I feel passionate about supporting clients with experiencing more pleasure in their lives, sexually and in other aspects of their day-to-day life.
Just for fun
Q: Hidden talents?
A: I can identify most dog breeds.
Q: Hobbies?
A: TV/Movies, reading (mostly romance), cooking, running/strength training, crochet, journaling, pop culture, cozy gaming, social justice.
Q: Ideal Vacation?
A: Japan or Chile to visit family.
Q: Biggest Fear?
A: Spiders but I have been working on being more tolerant of them in my apartment.
Q: Extroverted or Introverted?
A: Extrovert raised by introverts, so I value my quiet, alone time as much as being social.
Q: Top Bucket List Item?
A: Visit the filming locations of my favourite movie, Pride & Prejudice (2005).
Credentials
Masters of Arts, Spiritual Care and Psychotherapy Martin Luther University College, Wilfrid Laurier University (Candidate)
Bachelor of Arts in Psychology (Hons.), Minor in Indigenous Studies, Wilfrid Laurier University
CRPO Registration – 20203
Fees & Session Costs
Individual 50-Minute Session: $170
Couples/Relationship 60-Minute Session: $190
Sliding scale spots may be available upon request.
Training Highlights
2-Day Essentials of Sex Therapy with Tammy Nelson: Effective Strategies for Creating Deep Sexual Connection and Fulfillment, PESI (2026)
Sexual Violence Response Certificate, The Office of Human Rights and Conflict Management, Wilfrid Laurier University (2026)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – Level 1, ICEEFIT (2024)
Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy – Level 2, ICEEFIT (2025)
Clinical Intervention and Support for Suicidal Clients & Their Circle of Care, Delton Glebe Couneslling Centre (2024)
Crisis and Support Worker Training, Sexual Assault Centre of Brant (2022)
Kink Affirming Care
Therapy without the shame and stigma. Start with a free consultation today and explore your pleasure. We can’t wait to meet you!